connie82

Well my boyfriend and I have been doing pretty well since our incident. He has been acting alot more supportive of me this past week. We have been taking walks together and has been watching taking the kids so I can have time to exercise. I’m still keeping an eye on him to make sure he isn’t tampering with anything. I really do think that I can trust him to help me accomplish my weightloss goals. Here is hoping any way. I choosen to start weighing myself every Friday. I’m a little worried about my very first weight in but no matter what the scale says I am going to keep trying.

Well I finally call Ben out for switching my food and trying to sabotaging my weightloss attemps. I asked him why he would try to keep me from losing weight.  Okay I really started by yelling at him and asking him if he enjoyed watching me fail. I told him that losing the pounds is hard enough all on it’s own without him making it worse. I asked him why he was doing this to me if he loved me. Ben said and I quote “I love you and I don’t want you turning into one of those nasty skinny bitches that are stuck-on themselves”. I was shocked by this I told him that I would never think, act or behave in such a manor. I tried to tell him that I would only change on the outside of me. And then he told me about a past relationship that he had. The woman he was with was about 45lbs overweight and when she lost the weight she completely changed. She became very self envolved. Needless to say their relationship ended. Ben told me he was afraid that I might change to and he didn’t want to lose me. He said was the worse thing was that she was to in love with her new image to be in a relationship with him anymore. What he told me did give me alot to think about. He agreed not to mess with anything else. This makes me wonder if you lose the amount of weight you want do you think it will change your personality?

Nadia,
Ben is not overweight he is actually in great shape. We have been together for 3years in December. I’m really not sure what kind of fear he could have because he knows I love him and I would not ever try to up-grade. I really don’t think he would ever switch my medicine or anything like that. Since I have made the discovery we haven’t dicussed it yet because I’m still trying to cool off. That and I’m not quite sure how I to discuss it. We have a great relationship and we have never really had any dissagreements. I’m just not sure how to start if you have any ideas I could really use them. I’ll keep you posted because I’m going to try to talk to him after work.
Thanks, Connie

I have been trying to lose weight for a while on my own and it just hasn’t been working. I changed my diet and started exercising for at least 30minutes a day. My boyfriend Ben didn’t really seem supportive of my weightloss goals. Every time I spoke about wanting to get into better shape he would say that he loves me just as I am and that I didn’t need to lose any weight. When I go shopping I buy the reduced fat and lowfat products for our house, he seemed fine with the change. Well today I found out that he has been switching the products out for the full versions. He would take my reduce fat box of cheese it’s and switch it with the regular cheese it’s and it doesn’t end there either he has been doing the same thing with the Milk, Cheese, ground beef, he even switched my egg beaters with really eggs I don’t know how many extra calories I have eaten with out even knowing it. I am so angery. I’m not sure how to handle this issue does anyone have any ideas? I love him and I just don’t know what to think or do.

Thanks Connie